Finding Our Way: Navigating Cross-Cultural and Interfaith Relationships
- Are you in a healthy enough space to mentally and emotionally forgo the need to be right and be OK with being wrong? If you are not in a healthy space, retreat. Giving each other space so that cooler heads can prevail can prevent an exchange of harmful words and actions. Be willing to ask yourself if your relationship is worth your need to be right.
- Are you being considerate or level-headed in this moment?
- Do you have blind spots pertaining to culture or religion that you may not be seeing because your own cultural, religious, or relationship needs are not being met?
- Can you effectively communicate to your partner that your needs are not being met?
- Consider if the shoe was on the other foot, would you be exhibiting the behavior that you desire to receive or experience?
- What will be the primary religion?
- What will be the primary language?
- Is there a mutual desire to instill one or both of our cultures within childrearing practices?
- Do we want our children to be bilingual?
- How will we balance each parental cultural influence within our childrearing practices?
- What does this type of balance look like, feel like, and sound like? Will we need to establish a primary cultural influence within our household instead?
- How will the holidays be celebrated?
- What is or is not acceptable, essential, or pertinent to raising children together?
- What additional considerations must we identify?